To call sinners. 

“Those who are well do not need a physician, but the sick do. I did not come to call the righteous but sinners.” (MK 2: 17) 

Whenever Our Lord sees weakness or sin, He comes with support. If we are focused on seeing our spouses’ mistakes and sins, naturally, Jesus will leave us (as “those who are well) and will go to our spouses (because He “did not come to call the righteous but sinners”). Our idea of extreme ownership helps us recognize our own mistakes, our own sin, and protects our relationship from our spouses’ idealistic vision.

“The Lord sent me to bring glad tidings to the poor and to proclaim liberty to captives.” (Gospel Acclamation)